The Splashes of Life 生命的波纹

       My grandfather took me to the fish pond on the farm when I was about seven, and he told me to throw a stone into the water. He told me to watch the circles created by the stone. Then he asked me to think og myself as that stone.

       “ You may create lots of splashes in your life, but the waves that come from those splashes will disturb the peace of all your fellow creatures,” he said.

       “Remember that you are responsible for what you put in your circle and that circle will also touch many other circles.”

       “You will need to live in a way allows the good that comes from your circle to send the peace of that goodness to others. The splash that comes from anger or jealousy will send those feelings to other circles. You are responsible for both.”

       That was the first time I realized that each person created the inner peace or discord that flowed out into the world. We cannot create world peace if we are riddled with inner conflict, hatred, doubt or anger.

       We radiate the feelings and thoughts that we hold inside, whether we speak them or not. Whatever is splashing around inside of us is spilling out into the world, creating beauty or discord with all other circles of life.

       7岁时，祖父带我到农场的鱼塘边玩。他让我往水中扔一粒石子，并叫我仔细观察激起的波纹。然后，他就要求我把自己也看成那粒石子。

       “生活中，你可能会激起很多波纹，这些波纹会打破周围的平静。”他说。

       “你要记住，一定要对自己激起的波纹负责，因为他们会触及他人的波纹，并对其产生影响。“

       “你应该将自己平和静谧的波纹传递给别人，而那些愤怒和嫉妒的波纹会向外传递消极情绪，所以，你应该对它们负责。”

那时，我第一次意识到，每个人平和或躁动的心情都会传递给整个世界。如果我门的内心充斥这矛盾、仇恨、怀疑和愤慨，就不可能创造一个和平的世界。

不论是否把内心的情感表达出来，我们无意中都在向外传递着自己的喜怒哀乐。不论我们的内心激起的波纹是哪一种自己该酱生影响他人的波纹责波纹，这些波纹会打破周围的平静。”他说，都会波及他人，与他们的波纹共振，创造美好，或不和谐的生活。

If you can keep your mind when all about you

Are losing theirs and blaming it on you;

If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,

But make allowance for their doubting too;

If you can wait and not tired by waiting,

Or, being lied about, don’t deal in lies,

Or, being hated, don’t give way to hating，

And yet don’t look good, nor talk too wise;

如果所有人都丧失理智，谴责你，

你还能保持清醒；

如果所有人都怀疑你，

你还能坚信自己，同时容忍他们的怀疑；

如果你能耐心的等候，而不感到厌倦

或者，即使被骗，也不要骗人

或者，即使被恨，也不要恨人，

If you can dream­­ — and not make dreams your master;

If you can think — and not make thoughts you aim;

If you can meet with triumph and disaster,

And threat those two impostors just the same;

If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken

Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,

Or watch the things you gave your life to broken,

And stoop and build’em up with worn-out tools;

如果你敢于追梦 — 而不让梦成为你的主宰；

如果你乐于思考 — 而不仅靠想来达成目标；

如果你获得成功或遭受挫折，

同样地，把他们都看成骗子；

如果你能忍受自己说过的事实，

被欺诈者扭曲，去诱骗愚蠢的人，

或者， 看着倾注毕生心血的东西被毁坏，

然后俯下身，用破烂不堪的工具来修复；

If you can make one heap of all your winnings

And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,

And lose, and start again at your beginnings

And never breathe a word about your loss;

If you can force your heart and never sinew

To serve your turn long after they are gone,

And so hold on when there is nothing in you

Except the Will which says to them: “Hold on!” ;

如果你获得无数的胜利后，

冒险是你从荣耀之巅跌落，

失败后，从头再来，

对于失败，不要有丝毫抱怨；

如果你能强逼沉寂自己的心智、精力和体力

在别人都离去后，使你仍能恒久坚守

永不放弃，即使当你的内心空无一物，

只有意志力告诉自己：“坚持！”

If you can talk with crowds and keep you virtue,

Or walk with Kings — nor lose the common touch;

If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you;

If all men count with you, but none too much;

If you can fill the unforgiving minute

With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run —

Yours is the Earth and everything in that’s in it,

And — which is more — you’ll be a Man my son!

如果你能与众人交谈，并保持你的美德，

或者，与王者同行——也不远离众人；

如果仇敌与好友都不加害于你；

如果所有的人都依靠你，但谁也不苛求；

如果你用六十秒的时间进行短跑，

来填充那不可饶恕的一分钟——

你就拥有了全世界，一切都属于你；

而且——更重要——孩子，你会成为一个顶天立地的人

当读到这篇诗词时，想到的是自己。这篇文章让我想通了，放开了……粗体的那几行，更让我知道，我何必在意别人怎么想……是否被蒙蔽只有他们自知……不论别人是否被蒙蔽，我，依然是我……事实的真相，那么需要耿耿于怀吗？反正，现实本来就没有公平可言，更没有所谓的是非对错……只要我觉得自己没错，那我又何必为他们背负他们自己的错……自己种下因，就让他们自己承受自己的果……该学会不去在乎了……